There are days when you want to break free of your world and spend time with a complete stranger. It is not uncommon for a man (or a woman) to wander with the intention of hooking up with someone. Thanks to networking, hooking up is not limited to bars anymore. It can be as easy as going online and connect with someone.
I am a gal who has more male friends than girlfriends. And interesting to note is that my statistics of male friends is skewed towards those who have multiple girlfriends. I wonder what the psychologists would say about that. So this particular article is my attempt to put some perspective on those seeking for a hook up.
It is a misnomer that hooking up is limited to bars or adult sites. The best hook ups happen in the most innocent of places. So, if you are a person who desperately wants to get laid, the first rule is to make sure you get around. Attend that boring seminar talking about growing your personal wealth, go to the public library, attend parties even without a date, watch that football or basketball live, go to concerts and take night classes. Each of this places has its own advantages. Example, watching sports allows anyone to talk with complete strangers without the need to explain why. It is quite common to make comments about the game and people just automatically warm up. School is a great equalizer for many. And a boring seminar is a great ice-breaker.
When you have eyed that girl you want to spend time with tonight, it is a good assumption that other guys have eyed that same girl too. So, we have to differentiate ourselves and make sure we put up a good image enough to make a lasting impression.
Most guys think that only handsome men can make a successful hook up. Not true. It is easier for them to be "considered" but it does not necessarily mean, they get to bring the girl home. Nothing breaks a girl into a sweet smile and an engaging laugh than a guy who is funny. There's a reason why the late Dolphy had numerous girlfriends in his lifetime, and they are truly beautiful women of their time: Pilar Pilapil, Baby Smith, Zsa Zsa Padilla to name a few. And how do you explain why the young Pauleen Luna is so enamored with Vic Sotto. Laughter can warm the heart of women of all ages.
Unfortunately, not all men are gifted with a great sense of humor, then let's hope you are gifted instead with a sharp wit. Brainy men are sexy men. You don't have to recite the whole Gettysburg Address or explain the Theory of Relativity to show you are intelligent. An intelligent man does not need to make the effort because it shows. The only limitation of this particular brand of attraction is that you might just get girls who are intelligent as well. It usually takes a smart woman to realize she is talking to an equally smart man.
If you cannot crack a joke even if your life depends on it, and if you are as average as the next John Doe, then let's hope you are loaded with cash. I do not mean for you to buy your women. Most men find that deplorable. But you can show that you are generous. Offer to pay for dinner (for her group of friends). Invite her to watch this season's musicale. Or take her malling. She'd love you for it! How many guys out there would invite a girl to go malling willingly? None. A guy used to ask me for dates. I don't find him attractive at all so I kept saying no. But he is persistent so I agreed to an innocent lunch. Then he started talking about the price of our meals and how hard up he is. I was polite the entire time I was with him, but I never went out with him again. Having budgets is fine, but to actually discuss it on a first date is not cool. If you are truly financially limited, then invite her to a decent casual restaurant, but do not discuss how difficult it is for you to pay for the meals. It is awkward and downright rude. It is just not done in polite society.
Be a good listener. This is not the time to take every phone call or answer every text messages you get. It is annoying to be with someone who does nothing all evening but be glued to his cellphone. Make eye-contact. Listen to what she is saying (and not saying). Show interest to what is important to her by asking follow-up questions and delving deep into her concerns and issues.
Although you are itching to bed that girl, please refrain from showing it. A girl does not want to know that all these efforts are merely for a quick tumble. Give the girl options. Give her a wide arc. This means show her you are interested in her sexually but if she is not up for it, it's still cool to hang out together.
Be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you are not. Guys have a tendency to exaggerate their achievement. They praise themselves. How many times did I date in this lifetime, and I can say 90% of the time, guys fluff their feathers. People are not stupid. Some are slower than others, but in the end, you will be found out. I once dated a guy who liked to talk about his past success stories. At first, I was impressed. But after a few hours, I noticed all he talked about were the past. I realized I was actually witnessing a bitter man who lives in the memory of his past success because he cannot face his failure today.
If you are good, if you achieved much, you don't need to advertise it. Because believe it or not, women do research. And they make one hell of a great researcher. There was a time my friends and I were reviewing for CFA at a nearby Starbucks outlet. One cute barista got interested in my sexy friend. At first , he was smiling sweetly at her. Next thing we knew, she was getting free coffee from him. My friend took it all in stride. But my other friend got hold of what's happening and did her research. What she revealed to all of us was amazing! The detail of her investigation was astounding. No wonder Shell and Unilever hired her back when she decided to work in Singapore.
I am a gal who has more male friends than girlfriends. And interesting to note is that my statistics of male friends is skewed towards those who have multiple girlfriends. I wonder what the psychologists would say about that. So this particular article is my attempt to put some perspective on those seeking for a hook up.
It is a misnomer that hooking up is limited to bars or adult sites. The best hook ups happen in the most innocent of places. So, if you are a person who desperately wants to get laid, the first rule is to make sure you get around. Attend that boring seminar talking about growing your personal wealth, go to the public library, attend parties even without a date, watch that football or basketball live, go to concerts and take night classes. Each of this places has its own advantages. Example, watching sports allows anyone to talk with complete strangers without the need to explain why. It is quite common to make comments about the game and people just automatically warm up. School is a great equalizer for many. And a boring seminar is a great ice-breaker.
When you have eyed that girl you want to spend time with tonight, it is a good assumption that other guys have eyed that same girl too. So, we have to differentiate ourselves and make sure we put up a good image enough to make a lasting impression.
Most guys think that only handsome men can make a successful hook up. Not true. It is easier for them to be "considered" but it does not necessarily mean, they get to bring the girl home. Nothing breaks a girl into a sweet smile and an engaging laugh than a guy who is funny. There's a reason why the late Dolphy had numerous girlfriends in his lifetime, and they are truly beautiful women of their time: Pilar Pilapil, Baby Smith, Zsa Zsa Padilla to name a few. And how do you explain why the young Pauleen Luna is so enamored with Vic Sotto. Laughter can warm the heart of women of all ages.
Unfortunately, not all men are gifted with a great sense of humor, then let's hope you are gifted instead with a sharp wit. Brainy men are sexy men. You don't have to recite the whole Gettysburg Address or explain the Theory of Relativity to show you are intelligent. An intelligent man does not need to make the effort because it shows. The only limitation of this particular brand of attraction is that you might just get girls who are intelligent as well. It usually takes a smart woman to realize she is talking to an equally smart man.
If you cannot crack a joke even if your life depends on it, and if you are as average as the next John Doe, then let's hope you are loaded with cash. I do not mean for you to buy your women. Most men find that deplorable. But you can show that you are generous. Offer to pay for dinner (for her group of friends). Invite her to watch this season's musicale. Or take her malling. She'd love you for it! How many guys out there would invite a girl to go malling willingly? None. A guy used to ask me for dates. I don't find him attractive at all so I kept saying no. But he is persistent so I agreed to an innocent lunch. Then he started talking about the price of our meals and how hard up he is. I was polite the entire time I was with him, but I never went out with him again. Having budgets is fine, but to actually discuss it on a first date is not cool. If you are truly financially limited, then invite her to a decent casual restaurant, but do not discuss how difficult it is for you to pay for the meals. It is awkward and downright rude. It is just not done in polite society.
Be a good listener. This is not the time to take every phone call or answer every text messages you get. It is annoying to be with someone who does nothing all evening but be glued to his cellphone. Make eye-contact. Listen to what she is saying (and not saying). Show interest to what is important to her by asking follow-up questions and delving deep into her concerns and issues.
Although you are itching to bed that girl, please refrain from showing it. A girl does not want to know that all these efforts are merely for a quick tumble. Give the girl options. Give her a wide arc. This means show her you are interested in her sexually but if she is not up for it, it's still cool to hang out together.
Be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you are not. Guys have a tendency to exaggerate their achievement. They praise themselves. How many times did I date in this lifetime, and I can say 90% of the time, guys fluff their feathers. People are not stupid. Some are slower than others, but in the end, you will be found out. I once dated a guy who liked to talk about his past success stories. At first, I was impressed. But after a few hours, I noticed all he talked about were the past. I realized I was actually witnessing a bitter man who lives in the memory of his past success because he cannot face his failure today.
If you are good, if you achieved much, you don't need to advertise it. Because believe it or not, women do research. And they make one hell of a great researcher. There was a time my friends and I were reviewing for CFA at a nearby Starbucks outlet. One cute barista got interested in my sexy friend. At first , he was smiling sweetly at her. Next thing we knew, she was getting free coffee from him. My friend took it all in stride. But my other friend got hold of what's happening and did her research. What she revealed to all of us was amazing! The detail of her investigation was astounding. No wonder Shell and Unilever hired her back when she decided to work in Singapore.
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